Monday, June 18, 2007

lots to say again

but no energy to write it

so I'll just let you read, should you wish, this month's editorial for our local magazines...

Togetherness

As a blogger and regular contributor to and reader of various websites I am often surprised by how much people ‘give away’ about themselves to complete strangers on the Internet. Some of the people I read about are willing to reveal what are quite often intimate and deep secrets to a potential audience of thousands and more, and often say that they feel the internet is their community, where they make their friends and where they feel safe.

There is a myth that people who spend lots of time on the Web are lonely and pathetic individuals, or geeky types who are no good at relationships. My experience is that this isn’t the case, and that people do make lasting friendships online which they often carry on face to face at a later date. Just last year online I made a friend of a colleague in the USA whose family stayed in our Rectory whilst we were on holiday and who turned out to be funny, clever and a pleasure to meet. It does seem, though, that so many people, both online and in the non-virtual world have lost a sense of ‘community’ where they live and with neighbours, and are turning more and more to ‘interest groups’ or the World Wide Web for support, sometimes at the expense of ‘realtime relationships’ or friendships with those who live just next door to them.

One of the purposes of our Parish Churches is to be somewhere for people to meet together and put into practice Jesus’ command to ‘love one another’. It means dealing with the messy parts of relationships - disagreements, disputes, dislikes and the like - and working hard at tolerance, affection, support and trust. The Bible has high hopes of what it means to be Church, St Paul didn’t even consider buildings when he talked about ‘the Church’ - he was more concerned with what he called ‘the Body of Christ’, a group of people so close to one another, who lived in love and faith to such a degree that they were, like a human body, inseparable – with no one ‘part’ being more important than the other..

Today we are concerned with our buildings, many of them are precious and represent a fantastic legacy handed down through generations, a sacred space for us to use to serve our community, a place of safety and of hope. But when it comes down to it, the Church building is nothing without the true Church, the loving, faith-filled relationships that make up our Christian Community. We aren’t always successful at being that kind of community, but we are working at it. If you aren’t a part of it, there are no membership requirements, no entrance exams and no-one who considers themselves better than anybody else. All are welcome, and together we can build a community of friends who share a desire to live in the kind of love that Jesus commanded, who are seeking truth together and who recognise that human beings are made for one another.

Jesus said ‘I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.’ John 13.34

3 comments:

Naomi said...

This post made interesting reading. I have to agree with you Alastair, much as I enjoy going online myself and chatting to friends who I've made through my blog, having online friends is no substitute for "realtime" friendships. I have a lot of "realtime" friends too and try to strike a balance between the two. Your parish sounds a happy community, where everybody can come together from all walks of life to share their faith. It's true what you say about the buildings. Buildings don't matter, it's the people inside them that matter and having that community spirit that is so sadly lacking in this day and age of computers and high-tech gadgets.

Dr.John said...

I like the internet and the blogging community but I love my church family.

Nick said...

Hah, well actually I probably fit into both categories. I'm a geek who is pretty useless at relationships (romantic at least), not helped by being in a rural community where most people you bump into are probably your cousin (I jest and exaggerate of course). However I have also built good and strong friendships online... so there is nothing majorly wrong with my social skills (twitches sporadically).

Part of the reason I gave my blog it's name, is because I wanted it to be a place where people could be a community online... using my meandering thoughts for the kindling of discussion. I don't want it to be a lecture.

I try to emulate God's attitude. His sanctuary was closed off to all but the High Priest, because of the sin of the people... but when Jesus died, he exposed the sanctuary for all to see... that we may approach boldly.

I want people to be able to come forward with that same boldness, without fear of reprisal... and speak openly, that we may build one another up.

I go to pray in my church on a Monday night and there is an apprehension in the place. You can cut the air with a knife when it is just 2 or 3 in prayer at that place. It is like it is waiting for something, a promise as yet unfulfilled.

I would love for people to one day have that sense that if they come to my blog... that one day something might just happen.

Time will tell in both and both are ultimately in God's hands.

Blessings

N